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قديم 08-25-2010, 04:14 AM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
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Ramadhan05 Why not cover your modesty

 

WHY NOT COVER YOUR MODESTY
ما المانع من الحجاب؟
"Abdul-Hameed al-Balai "
Free English Translation by
Wael F. Tabba


Translator's Introduction

Thanks are only due to Allah, the All-High and Almighty, and Blessings and peace be upon him who no Messenger will be sent after.
Upon reading the book of al-Balali, I was very impressed about the way it tackles the problems of the modern Muslims, and the way it attacks dubiosities, and handle them one by one. Consequently I wanted that the English readers should benefit from this book. That was the reason that compelled me to translate it into the English language.
The translations of the meanings of the Holy Qur'an are based on the work of 'Abdullah Yousuf 'Ali.
The translations of the meanings of the hadiths of the Messenger of Allah are based on the nearest possible meaning that the modern English language can give to that narration.
This translation was done on a free basis hoping to capture the true spirit with which it saw written. For an attempt to do it in other way will cause it to lose a lot of its power.
Finally I hope that this work will benefit our English speaking brothers and sisters in Islam, and I ask them to pray and make Du'a' for the writer, myself, and all those who participated in making it available for the public.
Peace be upon each and everyone of you.

Wael F. Tabba
Al-Khobar



Introduction



Allah, the All-High, says:
(ونفسٍ وما سوّاها ، فألهمها فجورها وتقواها) (سورة الشمس 91 : 8-7 )
(By the Soul, and the proportion and order given to it; and its inspiration as to its wrong and its right;) "Qur'an 91: 7-8"
Allah, the All-High and Almighty, created the human soul, and gave it the ability to choose between treading the Good path or the Evil path. He also told us to exchange with our brethren good advice, and teaching of Truth. Allah, the All-High, considers these acts to be specific characteristics of those whom He excludes from eternal loss.
This is what Allah declared in Soorah al-'Asr. Our Messenger (Blessings and peace be upon him) also taught us that giving advice to each other is part of our duty, so he said:
المؤمن مرآة المؤمن
"The believer is a mirror of other believers"
-for he looks into the flaws of this brother, and reflects it like a mirror. This Mirror does not reflect the physical image, but rather reflects the character image. Islam encourages his followers to love each other. We are advised and encouraged to do so through many hadiths.
Among the basics of such a love is to wish that your brother or sister enters paradise and is spared hell. Things should not stop to wishing alone, but rather a person should do whatever possible to keep his brother or sister away from harm in this life and the Hereafter. Its starting point is the love which we feel for the daughters of our Muslim nation, Arab people, and the Gulf societies, and our care to keep them away from what may harm them in this life and the Hereafter.
This book is aimed to a specific group of our sisters who did not commit themselves to covering their modesty. This lack of commitment is due to either their ignorance of its religious necessity, their wakness in face of the attractions of this life, or their defeat in face of evil in their souls. Their exists other reasons for this lack of commitment like a whispering devil, a bad companion who does not love her peers, and others.
We ask Allah to make the words of this book as keys for the good. We also pray to Him to cause these words to open up closed hearts and stir dormant feelings. We beg Him in our supplications to make this book a reason to urge our sister who are not committed to hide their full modesty and revert back to the pattern which Allah has ordained on mankind.


Dubiosities and Desires

The devil can only penetrate the soul of human being through two major ports of entry: Dubiosities and desired. The motives behind any person's disobedience do not deviate from one of these two, which seriously hinder the Muslim from performing acts which please Allah. These two reasons alone are among the major causes that prevent a Muslim from being accepted into Paradise. We will try our best to cover the most important dubiosities and desired in this book.

First dubiosity:
Repression of the sexual energy
This Dubiosity states that it is dangerous to repress sexual energy, since it is a major and powerful drive in Man.
This concept is based on the principle that increasing pressure leads to explosion. The theory states that by covering the modesty of a woman you will be covering her beauty, and that will subject young men to critical sexual repression. This repression explodes in the form of rape and other sex crimes. The proposed solution for this problem is to liberate women from this cover so that young men could relieve their repression, and the end result (according to this theory) is that by satisfying the "repressed" needs of young men society minimized the danger of such explosions!

The answer
This dubiosity hides behind a façade of logic. The person who promotes this dubiosity appears, on the face value, to be looking after the better interest of his society; he seems to want to prevent it from decadence. But in fact the person who is promoting the Dubiosity is threatening his society with a greater danger which might lead to its disintegration. The danger is so great that it might break up the very fabric of society.
If this fallacy were true, then America, Europe, and all other countries with similar moral fabric would have been the least countries to suffer from rape, sexual harassment and other sex related crimes. America and Europe have given sexual freedom great importance under the pretence of "personal freedom". This concept is taken to such an extreme that one cloud find obscene magazines sold everywhere. In those countries TV programmes after midnight are full of dissolute show that are sexually explicit. Moreover, during the summer, women take off their clothes and wear a "bathing suites' in coastal towns, and they are allowed to go topless on some beaches.

Throughout America video tape shops for adults only are widely spread. In these shops you find all kinds of perversion and items that substantially rigger sexual excitement! Any adult can watch these films inside the shop or rent them to watch at home. Whorehouses are spread to such an extent that some countries exhibits prostitutes in a display window for the clients!

So what was the result of such wantonness and obscenity? Did rape incidents decline? Did those societies achieve the "satisfaction" that they are talking about? Where women saved from the dangers of this obscenity?

American statistics
The Federal Government of U.S.A conducted research and published their statistics in a book entitled Crime in U.S.A on page 6 it states that during 1988, one rape crime was committed every 6 minutes in that country. In the same book the following statistics are listed:

Rape crimes in the U. S. A.

A verse of the Holy Qur'an that
Explains the above statistics

These statistics and other confirmed reports, indicate that the above rate of increase in sex crime in those countries, are only a practical explanation of the commands of Allah, the Almighty, All-High:

(يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُل لِّأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاء الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِن جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَن يُعْرَفْنَ فَلَا يُؤْذَيْنَ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُوراً رَّحِيماً) "سورة الأحزاب 59:33"

( O' Prophet! Tell your wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons [when out of doors]: That is most convenient, that they should be known [as such] and not molested.) "Qur'an 33:59"

The reason behind the revelation of this verse, as explained by Imam al-Qurtubi, was:
"Before the widespread use of indoor toilets, women used to relieve themselves in the desert. This would cancel the distinction between free women, and women slaves. So Muslim women used to be harassed by the wicked infidels, who thought that they were slaves. When approached by such a man, the Muslim woman used to shout to make him keep his distance. When the women complained to the Prophet (bpuh), the above verse was revealed, (that was when Muslim women started to cover their modesty). From then onward, the free Muslim women were clearly distinguished from the women slaves." Tafseer al-Qurtubi, vol. 8, p. 5325

The woman who makes herself a dazzling display, by uncovering her beauty and make-up for every body to enjoy, excites dormant desires. This exposure causes her to be harmed by the hands of human wolves. On the other hand, the covered woman hides her beauty and make-up, so that only her face and hands are exposed according to one ruling, or only her eyes are exposed according to the other ruling. What desires that covered woman excited, and what instincts does she incite?

Allah, the All-High and Almighty, ordered "the cover Hijab" to protect women from harm. He, the Exalted knows that displaying make-up and beauty is in fact an invitation to increase sex crimes and stir dormant instincts.

As for those who believe in this dubiosity and insist on promoting it, we present the following four facts for them to contemplate:

Fact#1
Statistics reveal their lies.

Fact#2
Sex is an instinct which both sexes posses and which Allah, the All-High, in His infinite wisdom, created to ensure our survival. Try to imagine procreation without it! If a person is sane, and accepts the existence of this instinct, then he should not make the absurd request of men to act completely normal in front of scenes of nudity.

Fact#3
It is a known fact that one of the sources of sexual excitement for men is staring at a women's beauty, whether this beauty is in the face, hair, or body. Men's sexual excitement will not abate by watching exciting scenes, for it is impossible to contradict the creation of Allah.

Fact#4
He who claims that the solution to sexual repression lies in spreading scenes o attractive women and nudity until sexual saturation is reached, knows that only two types of men will not be affected by such scenes:
The first type are the eunuchs who are incapable of sexual excitement by watching displayed nudity.
The second type are the sexually impotent men who are not roused by the sight of displayed nudity.


to be continued ensha'Allah
التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين


التعديل الأخير تم بواسطة الطامعة في رضا ربها ; 08-25-2010 الساعة 04:18 AM
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قديم 08-25-2010, 09:37 AM
سفري بعيد وزادي لن يبلغني سفري بعيد وزادي لن يبلغني غير متواجد حالياً
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افتراضي

**thanks **
التوقيع

قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم :
( ما من أيام أعظم ولا احب إلى الله العمل فيهن من هذه الأيام العشر فأكثروا فيهن من التهليل والتكبير والتحميد )
فلنجتهد في استغلالها عسى الله ان يغفر لنا ويرحمنــــا ,,*

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قديم 08-26-2010, 05:15 AM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




افتراضي

Second dubiosity:
No conviction
This second dubiosity can be more categorized as following one's own wants and desires. If you ask one of our uncovered sisters about the reason of her non-commitment to covering her modesty she replies: I am not convinced yet with the concept of COVER_ Hijab. Once I am convinced I will cover my modesty, Allah's willing.
Our sister who hides behind such an excuse, should differentiate between two types of commands: a human command, and a divine.
A request, or even a command issued by man does not exceed the limits of human words. About this subject Imam Malik said that humans are liable to the either right or worng. You are free to accept or reject the words of any human except the words of the Prophet (bpuh). So when we talk about a command or words of men, then it is acceptable for any one to claim non-conviction.
However, if the command is divine, ordained by Allah, the All-High and Almighty, either in His Book or through His last Prophet (bpuh), then there is no place for anybody to say," I am not convinced". The "I am not convinced " statement is dangerous because it indicates a doubt in the heart of the person. Whoever makes such a statement with conviction, knowing that is a command from Allah, there is a real danger that this person is unknowingly defecting from Islam.

Instead our sister should have said that she is disobeying Allah, because of her weak will power, irresistible desire, or powerful whims. Such words are definitely more advisable than declaring nonconviction. These words confess weakness, disobedience, and most importantly, our sister doesn't make herself a judge on the commands of Allah, criticizing and correcting them. Allah, the All-High, says:
وَمَا كَانَ لِمُؤْمِنٍ وَلَا مُؤْمِنَةٍ إِذَا قَضَى اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَمْرًا أَن يَكُونَ لَهُمُ الْخِيَرَةُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِمْ وَمَن يَعْصِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ ضَلَالًا مُّبِينًا ( سورة الأحزاب 36:33
( It is not fitting for a believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger, to have any option about their decision: If any one disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong path.)
Quran 33:36

The required stand
When a slave (servant) believes in Allah, in His infinite knowledge, power, strength and wisdom, then he or she should be polite enough with his or her creator and not put human loci above any divine command. In fact when true believers hear a divine command, their immediate reaction is to say:
(... سَمِعْنَا وَأَطَعْنَا غُفْرَانَكَ رَبَّنَا وَإِلَيْكَ الْمَصِيرُ ) سورة البقرة: 285:2
(… We hear, and we obey:[We seek] The forgiveness, our Lord, and to Thee is the end of all journeys.) Qur'an 2:285

Those believers know for a fact that Allah is omniscient; His knowledge is perfect and encompasses every thing, from the ever beginning to the ever lasting, without limitations! That is why they never place the imperfect, minuscule and limited human reasoning above His knowledge.
When Allah, the All-High and Almighty, commands us, He knows that in His command lies our best interest and happiness. Consequently, when He commands woman to cover up and hide her modesty, He knows that in the command lies her happiness, glory and dignity.

to be continued ensha'Allah
التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين

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قديم 08-26-2010, 09:12 PM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




Arrow

A practical example

Suppose that we purchase a new computer, and suppose that we want to inquire about the best method of operation, order the operational manual, and ask for technical advice in case of damage. Whom should we consult then? Should we consult a car washer or the computer manufacturer?
The creator and "manufacturer" of man is our Lord Guardian. Therefore it is only natural that He knows best about what is good and what is bad for mankind. Any submission to or seeking judgment from any source except Allah, is a form of stupidity. Is it not stupid to submit to commands, rulings, or even advice of the ignorant exposes himself to total loss.
Unfortunately, this is what is happening to us-Muslims, for we are seeking the answers to our problems from sources that do not posses it. Adding insult to injury, we do not even try to understand the meaning of the word "Islam"! Islam means unconditional submission to the commands and prohibitions of Allah, the All-High and Almighty.
Don't fall into contradictions, O' virtuous sister

When you advise our sisters to cover up their modesty, a typical reply would be: I am a good Muslim and believer; I strictly observe the timing of the ordained prayers, I perform many Nafl (optional) prayers, I fast Ramadan, I have performed the ordained Hajj and more than one 'Umrah, and I pay Zakah on a monthly basis. However, I am not convinced that I have to cover up.

To this sister we say

If you are performing these great deeds out of reverence and submission to the commands of Allah, the All-High and Almighty, and out of fear of His wrath and punishment, then why are you exercising partial belief? A partial belief is believing in part of the Holy Book and denouncing another parrot of it. Belief is an indivisible issue, if you reject any part of the Holy book then you are rejecting the whole Book. Allah, the Exalted, reprimanded the children of Israel for their partial obedience to His orders. He the All-High said:
(...أَفَتُؤْمِنُونَ بِبَعْضِ الْكِتَابِ وَتَكْفُرُونَ بِبَعْضٍ فَمَا جَزَاءُ مَنْ يَفْعَلُ ذَلِكَ مِنْكُمْ إِلَّا خِزْيٌ فِي الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا وَيَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ يُرَدُّونَ إِلَى أَشَدِّ الْعَذَابِ وَمَا اللَّهُ بِغَافِلٍ عَمَّا تَعْمَلُونَ )
سورة البقرة 85:2
(Then is it only a part of the Book that ye believe in , and do you reject the rest? But what is the reward for those among you who behave like this but disgrace in this life? And on the day of Judgment they shall be consigned to the most grievous chastisement for Allah isn't unmindful of what ye do.) "Qur'an 2:85"
The ordained prayers that you are so careful to observe in their proper timing are commanded by Allah, so is the command to cover up one's modesty.
وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُوْلِي الإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ)
سورة النور 31:24
(And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what [ordinarily] appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands posses, or male attendants free of sexual desires, or small children who have no carnal knowledge of women; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O' you believers! Turn you all together towards Allah in repentance that you may be successful.) Qur'an 24:31

From this verse we know that this order is as clear as any other divine order. Refusing to obey it, will jeopardize the person to Allah's wrath and His punishment as mentioned is Soorah al-Baqarah, verse 85 above. If we keep in mind that the least penalty in Hell is described by the Prophet (Blessings and peace be upon him) in the true hadith:
إن أهون أهل النار عذاباً يوم القيامة رجل على أخمص قدميه جمرتان يغلي منهما دماغه كما يغلي المرجل في القمقم
" On Judgment Day, the least tormented of the people of Hell is man who has at the bottom of his feet two embers from which his brain boils the likes of the boiling of a bottle inside a caldron." Bukhari, vol. 11,p.367, Kita bar-Raqaq
If this is the case for the Least Tormented, so imagine the condition of those whom Allah is threatening with "the most grievous penalty" because they reject part of the book.

Dearest sister…

Are you willing to exchange the bounties of the Hereafter with clothing styles and showiness of this life? Are you willing to endure, or think that you are capable of bearing the burden of the eternal "most grievous penalty" for a few moments of egoistic satisfaction? Even a lifetime of earthly enjoyment will only be a passing moment compared to eternity. We only wish you the best of the best in this life and the hereafter. That is why we ask you urge you, and beg you to wigh logically the odds of these choices.


to be continued ensha'Allah
التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين


التعديل الأخير تم بواسطة الطامعة في رضا ربها ; 08-26-2010 الساعة 09:15 PM سبب آخر: cont'd
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قديم 08-28-2010, 03:44 PM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




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Faith is in the heart

Among the most common replies that you hear when you ask our uncovered sisters i.e., without Hijab, about the reason why they do not cover up their modesty is this: "Faith is in the heart." Let us contemplate this dubiosity.

The source of this dubiosity
It is the erroneous translation of some of the hadiths of the Messenger of Allah (Blessing and peace be upon him), such as his hadith:

إن الله لا ينظر إلى صُوركم وأموالكم
ولكن ينظر إلى قلوبكم وأعمالكم.

"Allah doesn't look upon your figure or wealth, rather He looks upon your hearts and deeds." Muslim, hadith no. 2564.

Once again, our sisters read only part of this hadith, and understand it accordingly. Consequently, they project their wrong understanding on what they practice! It is true that the place of faith is in the heart, but that is not all. Our sisters forget that the Prophet (Blessing and peace be upon him), said that Allah, the All-High, looks at "deeds" and actions as well as at "hearts). To understand this hadith correctly, we should know the Prophet (bpuh) wanted to underline the importance of sincerity in our deeds. Allah, the All-High, accepts from the good deeds of humans only that which is sincere, pure and committed only with the intention to worship Him.(1)
Another hadith that is misunderstood and misused is the one narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (Blessing and peace be upon him) said:
التقوى هاهنا؛ ويشير إلى صدره
"Piety is in here. And he pointed towards his chest." Muslim, hadith no. 2564
The author of Nuzhat-ul-Muttaqeen explains this as such:
"The hadith informs us that Allah, the Exalted, rewards our deeds in accordance with the degree of the purity and integrity with which the heart has intended to perform these deeds. The degree and amount of this reward is also related to the act of caring for the heart, correcting its intentions, and purifying it of what Allah does not like. The better the care, the better the reward, and vise versa." Nuzhat-ul-Mutaqeen, vol. 1, p. 25.


Definition of faith
Restricting faith to the "heart" alone is not enough to commit the believer to Paradise and his/her salvation from Hell. The majority of the reputed scholars of the Sunni Group define faith as: "It is belief in the mind and heart; the speech that the tongue utters; and the acts that conform to its (the faith) pillars." Any other definition will not be in accordance to the Sunni doctrine.
Faith is only complete if the above three conditions are met!
A hypocrite is a person who utters the words of faith with his tongue, and perform the acts of the believers with his limbs without a sincere belief in the heart. The hypocrite used to pray with the Prophet (Blessing and peace be upon him), pay alms (zakah), and participate in Jihad (fighting for the cause of Allah). However their hearts did not believe in the true religion of Allah, the All-High, and that was why Allah has convicted them of hypocrisy; their just reward will then be the deepest pit of Hell.
The Devil (Iblees), represents the type who believe with their hearts, but do not translate this belief into acts and deeds. Iblees believed in the capability of Allah to end life, as well as the capability for resurrection, and Judgement Day. That was the reason why he asked Allah to delay his death until the Doomsday. Yet, he never acted with what such faith requires. Allah, the All-High, describes Iblees as:
(...أَبَى وَاسْتَكْبَرَ وَكَانَ مِنَ الكَافِرِينَ ) سورة البقرة 34:2
(… He refused and was haughty: he was of those who reject Faith.) Qur'an 2:34
Anybody who contemplates the Holy Qur'an, notices that wherever faith is mentioned in any verse of the Holy Qur'an, it is always followed by work and action; these two are never apart. You always read:
(الَّذِين آمَنُواْ وَعَمِلُواْ الصَّالِحَاتِ )
(Those who believe and work righteousness). These verse indicate that belief and work are inseparable.
We would like to ask our virtuous sister, who refuses to wear hijab and cover up her modesty and hid behind the flimsy excuse that she has "faith in her heart", the following question:
Let us consider the following situations. You are working as a teacher, and your boss (the Head-Mistress) requested you to perform a specific task: a report of some sort. Then on the next day you do not submit your report, and you say to your boss: I believe completely and I am convinced deep in my heart with what you have requested of me, yet I did not feel like performing it! Imagine yourself in such a situation with another human! Think punishment which your boss is going to inflict on you. NOW extrapolate this and think: you are going to stand in front of Allah, the Almighty, alone without anybody or anything to fend for you except your deeds!


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It is a good place to remind our readers that all our action could be transformed into acts of worship, if the believer did them with the intention of worshipping Allah: Eating with the intention to have a strong body capable of worship Allah; performing marital duties with your spouse with the intention of keeping yourself from committing disobedience; work and labour with the intention of earning money to keep you and your family from harm, and from begging, etc. All aspects of our life are acts of worship if preceded by the right intention.


to be continued ensha'Allah
التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين

رد مع اقتباس
  #6  
قديم 08-29-2010, 06:33 PM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




Arrow Fourth dubiosity

Fourth dubiosity
Allah has not guided me to the right path yet

Another group of our sisters uses this dubiosity when asked to cover up her modesty –wear hijab. She replies: "I would love to cover up my modesty, but Allah did not guide me yet. Pray for me that Allah may guide me!"
Our sister who says such a thing falls into a grave fallacy. We ask this sister: How did you know that Allah did not guide you? If her reply was that she simply knows, then this implies one of the two:

First: That she was given the knowledge of the unforeseen, which is written in the Tablet Preserved. Through suck knowledge, she is sure that she is among the wretched who will end up in Hell!

Second: That a certain creature, whether human or angel, has informed her of her destiny, and told her that she is not from among those who are guided to the right path!
So, dearest sister, since the normal reply to the above is negative, then how did you know that Allah did not guide you ?

There is a second point:
Allah, the All-High, has shown us in his Holy Book that guidance is of two forms:
1- Direction
2 – Assistance

1- Direction: To show the path towards the truth. Every human being shares this type of guidance with the Prophets, and with Allah. Allah, the Exalted, directs His answerable creations and shows them the paths to Right and Evil. This direction is revealed to them through His Messengers, and Books. The Messengers, their books, and heralds distinctly show their people the Right path and the Evil path.
2- Assistance is a specific characteristic of Allah, the All-High and almighty. Its definition involves more than a singular aspect: it is to instill Right in the hearts. It is to project against deviating from the Right. It is to assist, help and sustain moving along the Right Path. It is to make a person love to believe in Allah and beautify this belief in him. It makes him hate faithlessness, wantonness, and disobedience. This type of guidance is granted to those who answer the summoning of Allah and are guided by the guidance of Allah. This type of guidance comes always after the first Path for all to choose, then He assists those who freely choose and move along it. Only to those who choose to tread along the right path with their own free will, will Allah grant the "Assistance"
On the above subject, Allah, the All-High, says:
(وَأَمَّا ثَمُودُ فَهَدَيْنَاهُمْ فَاسْتَحَبُّوا الْعَمَى عَلَى الْهُدَى ...) سورة فصلت :17:41
(As to Thamud, We gave them guidance, but they preferred blindness [of the heart] to Guidance…) Qur'an 41:17
To summarize, First there is direction
(وَالَّذِينَ اهْتَدَوْا زَادَهُمْ هُدًى وَآتَاهُمْ تَقْوَاهُمْ ) سورة محمد 17:47
(But to those who receive guidance, He increases their guidance, and bestows on them their Piety and Restraint [from evil].) Qur'an 47:17
Second comes Assistance: However, if the slave (servant) decided to choose evil of his own free will, Allah will deprive him of Assistance, and that will increase his loss. Allah, the All-High, says about that:
(قُلْ مَن كَانَ فِي الضَّلالَةِ فَلْيَمْدُدْ لَهُ الرَّحْمَنُ مَدًّا...) سورة مريم 75:19
(Say, whoever goes astray, [Allah] most gracious extends [the rope] to them…) Qur'an 19:75
(...فَلَمَّا زَاغُوا أَزَاغَ اللَّهُ قُلُوبَهُمْ...) سورة السف 5:61
(…Then when they went wrong. Allah let their hearts go wrong..) Qur'an 61:5


An example of the guidance of assistance

Shaykh as-Sha'rawi cites a beautiful example of this type and Allah's rules and regulations concerning it. He says: "This guidance is similar to a man looking for an address. In order to reach his address he asks a traffic warden for directions. After he receives the right directions from the warden, the man faces two choices:
- He either believers the warden and moves in accordance with the direction that he receives. Consequently the further he moves, the more guided he is, and the nearer to his destination he becomes. Or,
- He considers the warden to be a liar, and moves in an opposite direction to that which he receives. In this case, the further he moves the more lost he becomes, and the further from his destination he will be.
That is the story of guidance and going astray. (1)
This example(or similitude) is an excellent one to make us understand this divine regulation: He who chooses the Truth, Allah will help and support; and he who chooses wrong, Allah will let him go astray, and will leave him to himself and his Satan.
Do your best in acting upon the causes of guidance, and you WILL have it
Such are the rules and regulations of Allah, the Exalted, in His creations:
(..فَلَنْ تَجِدَ لِسُنَّةِ اللَّهِ تَبْدِيلًا وَلَنْ تَجِدَ لِسُنَّةِ اللَّهِ تَحْوِيلًا) سورة فاطر 45:35
(… No change will you find in Allah's way [of dealing]: No turning off will you find in Allah's way [of dealing].)
The regulations of Allah dictate that change will not take place unless a person starts the change in himself, and spares no effort to implement the change he seeks.
(...إِنَّ اللَّهَ لا يُغَيِّرُ مَا بِقَوْمٍ حَتَّى يُغَيِّرُوا مَا بِأَنْفُسِهِمْ...) سورة الرعد 11:13
(… Verily never will Allah change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves…) Qur'an 13:11
Consequently the person who is seeking guidance, has to do his/her very best to ensure that Allah's rules of causality take effect. He/she should not stop at the point of asking people to pray for him/her only. In seeking the rules of causality, the best role model is Maryam, may peace be upon her. In her weakest stage, while giving birth, she needed nourishment. That was when our Lord, the Exalted, asked her to perform a task, which the strongest men can not perform easily: He asked her to shake the trunk of a palm tree, in spite of the rigidity of that trunk. Allah, the All-High, told her:
(وَهُزِّي إِلَيْكِ بِجِذْعِ النَّخْلَةِ...) سورة مريم 25:19
(And shake towards thyself the palm tree…) Qur'an 19:25
Without any question, doubt, or hesitation, she complies. All Allah, the All-High, requires from his slave is to do their best, and act. The laws of causality which Allah created require action to take place in order to achieve the desired conclusion. Allah could have easily put some food in her hand, or in her mouth. However He wanted to teach us a lesson in obedience, and to teach us that we are required to perform our best action. In her weakened state, she put her hand on the tree, and tried her best. The law of causality took effect, and the result was:
(...تُسَاقِطْ عَلَيْكِ رُطَباً جَنِيّا) سورة مريم 25:19
(…It will let fall fresh ripe dated upon you.) Qur'an 19:25
Such are the laws and regulations of causality that Allah, the Almighty has ordained! It is not possible for any believer to stay in a sacred house of Allah, even if it is Makkah, and just worship Allah, pray to Him, and ask Him sustenance. Allah, the All-High, required from Alla believers to do their best in working for their living: heaven does not rain gold and silver.

Dearest sister, do your best in seeking the causes of guidance, and you shall have it, Allah's willing. Supplication and praying to Allah is only one form if seeking. Other methods include: choosing good company, spending some time reciting the Book of Allah and contemplating its meanings, listening to religious cassette tape, attending religious lectures and seminars, and reading religious oriented books. Remember, before you start on this path, you have to abandon and put behind you, what might hinder you from the path of guidance, or lead you astray. These hindrances are: bad company, reading trashy magazines, eagerly waiting and watch TV series that encourage prohibited relationships, traveling without an unmarriageable (male) relative, building up relationships through the telephone with young men and other hindrances that will stop you from following the guidance path, and will lead you astray.


1)
Excerpts from a lecture given in Kuwait in the eighties entitled, "Does man have a free will or is the steered?"


to be continued ensha'Allah
التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين

رد مع اقتباس
  #7  
قديم 09-18-2010, 01:57 AM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




افتراضي

Fifth dubiosity


Impeding marriage



Another group of our young single sisters pertain their non-commitment to hide their modesty to the fear of not getting married.


In many cases this dubiosity is shared by our sisters and their parents. It stems from the fear that young men will not ask for the hand of a girl for marriage unless they see her hair, her beauty, and the shape of her body. Therefore if the young women was covered, then no one will approach her for marriage. In fact Satan uses this fear to stir this dubiosity in their heart.


There are two points that repudiate this dubiosity:


The first point: The ideological and theoretical aspect


Even though beauty is a major reason for marrying a woman, yet it is not the only reason. The Messenger of Allah (Blessing and peace be upon him), indicated the different reasons which make men marry. He said:


تُنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها ولحسبها ولدينها ، فاظفر بذات الدينِ تَرِبَتْ يَداك.


"A woman is married for four reasons: Her wealth, her family, her beauty, and her piety; do your best to win the pious one, may your hand be soiled with dirt."1


(The last phrase is used as form of affection.)


The above hadith clearly indicated that people do not seek beauty only. Rather there are reasons and conditions that may be less, more, or as important as beauty. Consequently, assuming( as some of our sisters and their parents do) that beauty is the one and only thing that people are looking for, while searching for a wife is not true. It indicates ignorance of the nature of man.


The second point: The practical aspect


Many of the young men in our society, insist on marrying a woman committed to cover up her modesty and of a good reputation, even though that the suitor himself might not be committed. Consequently, displaying the young woman's beauty and make up, may be the reason why young men would not approach a prospective wife. The young men's logic is that if this woman has carelessly ignored a divine order, (which is to cover up her modesty-observing hijab), then it is also likely that she may disregard other divine orders for the ways of Satan.




1)

Bukhari, vol. 9, p. 115 under the chapter of Marriage.


to be continued ensha'Allah
التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين

رد مع اقتباس
  #8  
قديم 09-18-2010, 01:59 AM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




افتراضي Fifth dubiosity

Fifth dubiosity
Impeding marriage


Another group of our young single sisters pertain their non-commitment to hide their modesty to the fear of not getting married.
In many cases this dubiosity is shared by our sisters and their parents. It stems from the fear that young men will not ask for the hand of a girl for marriage unless they see her hair, her beauty, and the shape of her body. Therefore if the young women was covered, then no one will approach her for marriage. In fact Satan uses this fear to stir this dubiosity in their heart.
There are two points that repudiate this dubiosity:
The first point: The ideological and theoretical aspect
Even though beauty is a major reason for marrying a woman, yet it is not the only reason. The Messenger of Allah (Blessing and peace be upon him), indicated the different reasons which make men marry. He said:
تُنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها ولحسبها ولدينها ، فاظفر بذات الدينِ تَرِبَتْ يَداك.
"A woman is married for four reasons: Her wealth, her family, her beauty, and her piety; do your best to win the pious one, may your hand be soiled with dirt."1
(The last phrase is used as form of affection.)
The above hadith clearly indicated that people do not seek beauty only. Rather there are reasons and conditions that may be less, more, or as important as beauty. Consequently, assuming( as some of our sisters and their parents do) that beauty is the one and only thing that people are looking for, while searching for a wife is not true. It indicates ignorance of the nature of man.
The second point: The practical aspect
Many of the young men in our society, insist on marrying a woman committed to cover up her modesty and of a good reputation, even though that the suitor himself might not be committed. Consequently, displaying the young woman's beauty and make up, may be the reason why young men would not approach a prospective wife. The young men's logic is that if this woman has carelessly ignored a divine order, (which is to cover up her modesty-observing hijab), then it is also likely that she may disregard other divine orders for the ways of Satan.


1)
Bukhari, vol. 9, p. 115 under the chapter of Marriage.

to be continued ensha'Allah

التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين

رد مع اقتباس
  #9  
قديم 01-14-2011, 07:13 PM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




افتراضي

Sixth dubiosity
"Too young"

This is another dubiosity, which is nearer to being a heart's desire rather than a dubiosity. It is often repeated by parents and few yound uncovered sisters who plan to cover their modesty at some vague point in the future. The reply of the parents will be something like this: It is not fair to prohibit this young child from enjoying life! She is still attracted to beautiful dresses, make up and latest hair styles. Displaying her beauty gratifies her and grants her lots of happiness and pleasure. That alone makes her enjoy life, so why should we prevent happiness at such an early stage? Why should we make her blame us in the future when she is grown up for that? Why should we make her miss the joyful life so quickly?

The "young age" in this conte xt could stretch until the age of twenty. Under such concepts, the young girl who starts menstruation at the age of thirteen is still a child!

التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين

رد مع اقتباس
  #10  
قديم 01-14-2011, 07:38 PM
الصورة الرمزية الطامعة في رضا ربها
الطامعة في رضا ربها الطامعة في رضا ربها غير متواجد حالياً
( إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ )
 




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A word of advice to the parents

We would like to remind these parents that they bear a huge and heavy responsibility in front of Allah and Judgement Day: they have prevented their daughters from covering up their modesty using the excuse that their daughters are still young.
According to the Shari'ah, when the girl starts menstruating, she has to cover up her modesty. Consequently when her legal guardians (her parents in most cases) prevent her from covering up, they commit a grave sin. Allah will interrogate them about that on Judgement Day. The All-High said:
(وَقِفُوَهُمْ إِنَّهُم مَّسْئُولُونَ) - سورة الصافات/24:37
(But stop them, For they must be asked.) " Qur'an 37:24

Also our Prophet (Blessing and peace be upon him) said:
كلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته.
"Each one of you is a shepherd, and each one of you will be asked about (and is respnsible for) his flock.

The father is the first "shepherd" at home, and he will be questioned on Judgement Day about each and every person of his flock. The wife is the "shepherd" in her husband's home during his absence and will be questioned about her actions with her flock.
Let the parents ask themselves about the number of young men that their daughter will tempt? How many young men will their daughter lead to perversion? Finally, how much harm will their daughter suffer on the hands of these young men?


to be continued ensha'Allah
التوقيع

رسالتي في الحياة :


سأطوّر نفسي باستمرار
من أجل خدمة الإسلام والمسلمين
وسأسخّر التقنية في مجال دعوة الآخرين

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